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"In submission, an individual accepts reality consciously, but not unconsciously. He accepts reality as a practical fact that he cannot at the moment conquer reality, but lurking in the unconscious is the feeling: ‘there'll come a day’—which implies no real acceptance and demonstrates conclusively that the struggle is still going on…. When, on the other hand, the ability to accept reality functions on the unconscious level, there is no residual battle, and relaxation ensues with freedom from strain and conflict. "
- Dr. Harry Tiebout, “Surrender vs. Compliance in Therapy with Special Reference to Alcoholism”
Whoa. This one is a tough concept, and sometimes difficult to define. There are great articles written by your fellows in this issue, and they do a fantastic job of putting into words the idea of “Compliance vs. Surrender” as it relates to members of the OA fellowship. Here’s my crackthe issue. at When I think of compliance, a few things come to mind: . . .
Surrender, in the context of spirituality and religion, is defined as acceptance and yielding to the will and teachings of a Higher Power.
From my perspective, surrendering to God’s will is a mainstay of this program of spiritual recovery. It is purely a volitional act. We have come to a place where human aid has failed us and practicing the third step of “turning our lives and will over to the care of God as we understood him” was our way to a sane and serene life.
Working with sponsees in sharing my experience, strength, and hope, I explain that until I let go of the vestiges of self will, I could not move forward in my recovery. “It was only when . . .
Even though Merriam-Webster lists the words surrender and compliance as synonyms, they feel really different to me. Compliance to me is a rigid adherence to rules; surrender is relaxing and letting go. One feels tight and constricted, the other feels like peace and freedom.
Before I came into the OA rooms, I spent years . . .